What you can say to a survivor

Remember: The batterer is the one who has the problem. It is not the victim’s responsibility to stop the violence.

You can say:

• I am very sorry that this is happening to you.
• I believe you.
• No one deserves to be abused.
• It is not your fault!
• I am concerned about your safety.

You can:

• Give them information about services, such as Women Helping Battered Women.
• Listen to them and emphasize their strengths as a survivor.
• Call WHBW’s hotline in order to get support and information for yourself as a friend.
• Do not expect a quick and easy remedy. Domestic violence is a complex issue.